I never liked the 'Honeymooners' when I was young. Ralph Kramden and his buddy Kramer seemed so...cartoonish. Ralph was such a chauvinist, and always blustering about something. His expression to Alice, his always patient and understanding wife, 'to the moon' seemed too much. Their home was so plain and boring. Alice was always wearing the same old dress. Ralph and his bud were always looking for ways to supplement their income! Even though Ralph had a full time job as a bus driver.
None of their schemes ever worked out.
I was young. I had no experience. I understood nothing.
I've changed my view. I understand from my own experience the struggle to make ends meet. I myself have tried many schemes to supplement my income. Even just to have an income. I understand the frustration and the patience and love Alice had for her blustering, loud husband.
At this point in my life, I admire their perseverance. No matter what, they never gave up. They never fell into despair. They never turned to crime. Their plainness, their ordinariness is, at the very least, authentic.
No room at the inn. No open waiting lists for...3 to 5 years, or less if someone dies. Rents are high. Wages are still not living wages. Seniors live on low and limited incomes.
Governmental agencies throughout the country have known that we are in a housing crisis. Some private companies are being creative and building small houses. Creative individuals are involved in the small houses movement; trouble is, there are not many places to put the small house. What is a person to do???
I was so desperate two years ago, I left a message for the Elderly and Veterans Affairs that they might as well kill me. Surprisingly, I was put in the program! I am required to pursue housing options, mostly subsidized housing. It is so discouraging. No lists are open, waiting lists are closed, yet, if I want to stay in the program, I have to provide proof that I am applying.
I have been applying. Housing Authorities with openings have not returned calls. I have been looking at trailers. The only places that seem to have affordable housing is in the north of the state, Tallahassee, for example.
If I have to move so far up north, I will be able to find something affordable, but...I will be alone. I love where I live. I have no car, but I am able to get everywhere I have to go by bike. I have a great landlord, neighbors who help each other and an apartment I love. Moving out of the area would be cruel.
There are non-government organizations that offer information on section 8 and housing vouchers. My landlord has had section 8 tenants. My counselor told me that all landlords want guaranteed rents. I doubt that. It's regular people who need the help. Landlords want to keep raising their rents; they want their profits! If non-government agencies have access to money and options, why don't government agencies do? Why aren't they able to access funds? Why aren't more low income houses built or made available? I feel somewhat hopeless, distressed.
I've been watching 'Hillstreet Blues.' This has been a flashback to pre-political correctness. It's raw, it's authentic, the dialogue is believable. People smoke in the office. They use foul language. The men are out and out chauvinists and the women wear dresses and skirts. Racial slurs abound.
I am not minimizing the disagreeableness of blatant racial prejudice, chauvinism and rough police behavior. Compared to more updated crime shows, however, this show's realism is a fresh breeze. The latest cop shows are cleaned up. They're well scripted and predictable. Lot's of moral preaching and social debate. The dialogues change, but the basic action is pre-formed, pot boiler like.
As and educator, I understand the power of visual images, and the repetitious dialogues that can become acceptable in general culture. I am torn. Though I appreciate and understand this, the anesthetized programs seem so phony and inauthentic.
Everyone loves the Bible so much. The Bible, at least the Old Testament, has a lot of violence. We've read this book for thousands of years. We've told these stories for thousands of years. There are consequences for good and bad behavior. Modern film and videos have a different impact. The impressions visual images create do not always present consequences. Without a sense of responsibility, of consequences, authority is decreased, respect is diminished.
I asked myself, how do you teach such lofty ideas like respect? I don't believe it is through talk alone. A good role model with admirable qualities and behavior is important. Even without that, repeated behaviors that become unconscious seem to be a method. The Jewish celebration of Passover has important rituals. Yes, it was great to get away from perusing Egyptians, but many of them died in the process. Their death is recognized by dripping wine to commemorate them. So, you are celebrating another chance at life, but not celebrating someone's death. These violent video games do no such thing. You get rewarded instead.
As for me, I'm going to enjoy this stroll down history lane.
When I was younger, my Dad used to say that life has peaks and valleys. I didn't know then what he was talking about. Now I do. The experiences of life have taught me what he meant.
There are days that I wish I had just stayed comfortably in my bed, under the covers. Those days where nothing goes well, everything falls apart. The only thing that saves me is knowing that it will pass. The days that are just 'regular' or even great will pass, too. Life is flowing. Flowing with the river of life and knowing everything is in flux, everything changes is, for me, the only way. I don't want to hold on to the unhappiness of 'bad' days, and I don't want to make myself unhappy by trying to hold on to the 'great' days.
Flow in the river of life!